1. What makes God’s perfect love feel less like that
for so many? Should I explain it, or show
it to them?
People are at so many different “places” when it comes to their
expectations of what God should (or should not) do, or whether or not they feel
God is intervening in their lives with His love. As I’ve suggested, so many expect God to
UNCONDITIONALLY ACCEPT them (and what they choose to believe and do) while at
the same time UNIVERSALLY PROTECT them (keep all the bad stuff).
God’s perfect love means He knows what each of us needs to happen in
our lives. He also knows how we’ll
respond to what He is quietly arranging or allowing. It takes them a while to realize what a
perfect Father is doing toward them. His
goal, of course, is for us to be humbled before Him and to trust Him. That process of learning to trust Him may or
may not feel loving.
Of course, we should all join you in both explaining God’s
love to someone else, but also showing it in the way we love them. The explanation may not be accepted,
especially if there is truth that stings in it.
But then again, when disinfectant is cleaning a wound of what infects,
it may sting, but ultimately it heals, right?
Of course, persistently showing God's love to someone is the very best way for them to see the Lord Himself, and be drawn to simple faith and trust in Christ. Love on!!!
Of course, persistently showing God's love to someone is the very best way for them to see the Lord Himself, and be drawn to simple faith and trust in Christ. Love on!!!
2. With the “innermost” love of God, is it
possible in your view to move in and out of that love?
All of us vacillate through seasons of being disobedient to the Lord
(in one season) and then being obedient to God (in a season of humility and
repentance). In the OT period of the
JUDGES, God’s people would repent (and God would draw near and help), and then
later they would rebel (and God would draw away and discipline).
Jesus’ John 14-15 promises are very simply stated. Obey God in the things His Word and Spirit
teach you, and you find yourself drawn into greater intimacy with the
Lord. Disobey and go your own, willful
way, and it is likely you will experience a detached prayer life and a distance
from your Father.
3. What is the elevator-answer or summary
on why horrible things happen to good people, sometimes on a very large scale?
I’m a bit wary of “elevator” answers. People ask important questions that are
complex by their very nature, and unfairly expect a sound-bite response that
satisfies. Horrible things happen to
good people because we live in a very fallen, sin-drenched world. There is a complexity to the things that
ripple through our everyday lives. Hope
for moving beyond our tragedies is found only in the Lord Jesus Christ, who
rescues us from the penalty of our sin, and promises that accounts will be
rectified and settled when God one day judges sin, and ushers us into a new
world where righteousness dwells.
4. How do you get someone to want to talk about
how awesome God is? How can you be a
model for Christ?
One suggestion might be
to have this friend read a book about the wonders of God’s creative hand. Richard Swenson’s MORE THAN MEETS THE EYE:
Fascinating Glimpses of God’s Creative Design would be a great book to
read. Tough to put down, and could be a
real coffee-shop-discussion starter.
5. How do we know the difference between what is
God’s love vs. evil from the devil?
At one level, we may not be able to “tell” it right away. For example, when all that stuff hit into Job’s
life (OT Book of Job, chapters 1-2), he really didn’t know who was behind
it. He later laid the blame at God’s
feet. In Job’s case, God let the
destructive power of the devil have some impact in Job’s life.
It may not be, ultimately, important to know the source of
the struggles. More important to
remember is that if we love God (Romans 8:28), God is “able to work all things
together for the good…for those who are called according to God’s purpose.” God is asking us to TRUST HIM no matter what
happens, or where it comes from. Even
Job’s struggles had a limit because of God’s restricting hand. And, in the end, God worked all things
together for the good in his servant Job’s life.
6. How do we embrace and receive God’s love?
First, we can embrace and receive God’s love by understanding what God has told us about His loving. This is why I presented this teaching from
Scripture on July 26.
Second, in the experiences of life, we embrace and receive God’s
love by framing our experience with the truths that we know from the
Bible. Sometimes, we hear God tell us
something, but then later in our experience, we forget what He’s said. We fail to apply the truth in the situation
in which we are living. To not apply is
to forfeit embracing God’s love.
Third, I think we best embrace and receive God’s love by sharing His
love with others. Being loving to
others. Doing God’s love helps us
understand what it is. Whom in your life
is experiencing God’s love through you these days?
7. If God is love, what is (the) devil?
Jesus said that the devil, whom He called “the thief,” comes only to
steal, kill, and destroy (see John 10:10a, the 1st ½ of the verse).
The devil does not love people (i.e., sacrifice himself for their good). His only objective is to take life from them,
kill what is good in their lives, and destroy them through sin.
8. God’s discipline or punishment for my
sin? Isn’t my sin cleansed by Jesus’
blood? How do we continue to accept that
punishment and continue our faith?
I like these questions. They
are important. Here are several words we
need to be clear about.
DISCIPLINE – this word speaks of God using difficult circumstances
in living to shape and develop and strengthen Godly character. There is no punishment involved. Rather, difficulty is used to make better.
PUNISHMENT – this is the death penalty that comes with sin. You are right to remember that Jesus took our
punishment for sin, fully, on the cross.
God never punishes his own children, who are declared righteous in
Christ, for their sin.
CONSEQUENCES – God’s children may experience the inherent
consequences in their lives should they choose to sin. For example, Proverbs says that a man who “commits
adultery against his wife lacks sense…like someone who takes burning logs and
hugs them in his bosom.” The point –
adultery destroys what is good in a
person’s life. It’s an unavoidable
consequence when anyone chooses sin.
Summary – God doesn’t punish his children for the sin that Jesus paid
for. That debt is paid. God may discipline his children, using
difficult things which come into life, to mold and shape their character into
godliness. God will allow his children to
experience the consequences of sin if they choose to do it, not a s a
punishment, but to teach that chosen sin is indeed a foolish choice.
9. Does the world not understand God’s love
because they don’t know the battle is spiritual and not physical?
I believe the world often misunderstands God’s love because people in
the world are not aware of the character of God nor why He does anything in the
world. It may be correct that they
assume struggles are merely physical things, and thus think that they can
simply manage the physical and life will be great. Of course, we know that the world doesn’t
work that way.
10. How do we best recognize when God is trying
to teach us through hardships?
James says, “If any of you lacks wisdom (about the trials you are
going through), let him ask of God, and God will give it (wisdom) to him” [James 1:2-4]. A simple direction – ask God for insight
into your hardship. He gives wisdom
about these things generously, if we are willing to ask and wait for Him to
speak.
11. If God is love, why does He take the ones we
love? My brother died in a car crash at
27. He was a great believer and man.
I’m sorry for the (temporary) loss of your brother. No doubt the hurt and absence in your life is
very real. We don’t know why God’s hand
takes some of his own special servant “home early.” You’ll remember from Actds 7-8 that a very
gifted and committed Christian, Stephen, was stoned to death and went home to
be with Christ, whom he saw “standing at the right hand of God.”
Even in the tough, seemingly pre-mature losses of loved ones, God
assures of this. “It is very much better to depart and be with
Christ” (Philippians 1:23). Let me ask
you – do you believe that? That to
depart and be with Christ is “far better” than staying here? We struggle to accept that. WE think that it would be far better for your
brother to still be here. Should we not,
though, believe what God has said about this, rather than our cherished
opinions. I would nudge you to believe
what God has said. It is better – though
hurtful for us – that He is with Christ right now…what could be better?
12. If Christians don’t obey, are they
Christians? Matthew 7:18-21?
We know from the letters written to Christians in churches in the
New Testament that very often Christians disobey? Don’t you disobey sometimes? To be sure, as Jesus points out, when a
Christians lives disobedient lifestyles, they are not showing the fruit of
Christ to the world. Some pretending
Christians may also be among those who show their true colors by not bearing
any fruit in their lives.
But we mustn’t, I believe, deny the reality that very often, Christians struggle to obey. This is why Paul wrote to the Ephesians, for example, and said, “Look, you have to take off the old man and put on the new man (Eph 4:20-24), replacing some very bad, disobedient habits (like laziness, filthy speech, etc.) with renewed-in-Christ habits (like hard work, pure speech, etc.). Christians can disobey, and should be in a process of becoming more and more obedient to the Lord Jesus.